I Do Declare
Name@Withheld from South Africa wrote:
I have read about the results of a process called "Affirmations." The technicalities are that you set yourself a goal, and you write down that goal 15 times on a piece of paper every day. For example, "I, Joe Smith, will become a famous soccer player." (Not that I really want to, but that's an example of how you'd do it). According to the person who told me about it, he has had spectacular success with this technique. And it's not just that it makes you more focused - almost every affirmation he did was realized through some strange "co-incidences" ... events that would have been totally out of his control just started happening until his previously unlikely goal was made a reality.
He himself is not a religious person, but he acknowledges that it may have effects similar to prayer - for example, he says that research shows that sick people who are prayed for are much more likely to recover than those who aren't, even if the sick people themselves are unaware that others are praying for them...
So here's my dilemma: If Hashem created a mechanism such as affirmations, is it wrong to use it? It seems somehow to be circumventing the "natural" order of things. Or maybe it is a natural force that just wasn't documented for the last 5760 years? I am very confused...part of me says "Go on!" while another part says "Wait, this might not be good." Many thanks for your wonderful Ask the Rabbi service.
No problem with affirmations. Simply using the "natural" power of mind over matter. It may seem supernatural because we usually only use a fraction of our brains.
There are two explanations for the "supernatural coincidences" you might encounter while using "affirmations." One is that, with your mind focused on the goal, you notice opportunities you would have otherwise missed. (It's like when I bought my first used car, I suddenly noticed a lot of cars with "for sale" signs. "What a coincidence," I thought. "A lot of people are selling their cars just now when I happen to want to buy one.")
Another explanation is indeed a "supernatural" one. As the Talmud says "A person is directed (by Heaven) in the way he wishes to go."
The Mishneh Berura says to say "In honor of the Holy Shabbat" every time you buy something for Shabbat, since "speech has a powerful effect in (matters of ) holiness."
So, pick a good goal, and then use "affirmations" to achieve it. And remember: You WILL succeed, you WILL succeed....