The Other Side of the Story - Upside Down Plate

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Upside Down Plate

Following Shabbat Mincha, we all dashed to wash our hands, bless, and partake of the third meal. Seeing long lines at the wash basins, I decided to reserve a seat first. Scooping some herring, pasta and salad into a plate and turning a cup upside down beside it, I went to wash.

When I returned to my seat someone was sitting in it! I couldn't believe it. He saw the plate of food and the international "reserved" sign, a turned-over cup; yet he sat down anyway!

"I believe this is my seat," I said.

"It is?" he asked.

"Whose plate did you think that was?"

"I thought it was mine. Do you want to sit here?"

"No, no. You sit right there," I said. I found another place and sat down thinking, "How can a person sit down at a place obviously reserved with food on the plate and say it's his?"

I hadn't been seated five minutes when he came over and said, "I am so sorry; I really must apologize. You see, every week I sit in that seat; and every week a friend of mine - who I just found out is not here today - puts a plate of food there for me. I am really sorry."

I wanted to go straight through the floor! I know this man. I've eaten in his home. He even loaned me a warm muffler one cold January night. And all I could think of when I found him in "my seat" were negative thoughts.

You don't know the whole story until you know the whole story!

(M. B. via the Internet)

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Based on "The Other Side of the Story" by Mrs. Yehudis Samet, ArtScroll Series

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