Ask The Rabbi
3 January 1997 
Issue #133 (Parashat Shmos)
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This Issue Contains:
1.  Getting Personal
2.  Letters to Heaven
3.  Answer to Yiddle Riddle
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Carol Brown <Paul_Brown@nynet.nybe.north-york.on.ca> wrote:

>I was told that a person isn't supposed to ask Hashem for personal 
>requests on Shabbat.  Is the reason so that we won't have sad thoughts on 
>Shabbat?  How far does this rule extend?  For example, I have a particular 
>prayer for an errant child which I say every other day.  Is it really not 
>appropriate to say it on Shabbat?

<Saydee613@aol.com> wrote:

>When a woman lights Shabbat candles, she davens over them, beseeching 
>Hashem.  Isn't this in contradiction of not asking Hashem for things on 
>Shabbat?

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Dear Carol Brown and Saydee613,

On Shabbat, it's inappropriate to pray for personal needs. Focusing on what 
you lack is apt to cause worry and distress, contrary to the spirited, 
festive atmosphere which should reign on Shabbat.

I discussed this issue with Rabbi Moshe Sternbuch, shlita.  He explained 
that that this prohibition is limited to physical needs.  Praying for 
spiritual needs, however, is permitted.  Praying for an errant child is 
considered a spiritual need.

Sources:
o  Tractate Shabbat 12a.
o  Rabbi Moshe Sternbuch, shlita, senior member of the Jerusalem Beit Din
   Tzedek (Badatz), and author of many important halachic works.

Neil Parks <nparks@torah.org> from Beachwood, Ohio wrote:

>I've noticed the Hebrew letters "Bet Samech Daled" on the top of many web 
>pages.  What does it stand for?  (I presume they're not trying to tell you 
>what brand of Unix it's running on.)

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Dear Neil,

The letters stand for B'Siyata D'Shmaya.  It's Aramaic, and it means "with 
the help of Heaven."  By the way, a number of years ago I asked the 
Steipler Rav (Rabbi Yaakov Kanievsky, zatzal) which is better to write at 
the top of a note or letter:  `Bet Samech Daled' or `Bet Heh' (Baruch 
Hashem)?  He answered that "Many people use the Aramaic expression instead 
of the Hebrew because it avoids writing one of the letters of Hashem's holy 
name (Heh) on something which might be thrown out."

Rabbi Moshe Feinstein states that writing `Daled' -- although a reference 
to Heaven -- is not a letter of Hashem's name, unlike the letter `Heh.'

Source:
o  Iggrot Moshe, Yoreh De'ah 2:138

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Yiddle Riddle:

Last week we asked:  When is a non-kohen called first to the Torah in the 
presence of kohanim?

Answer:  When he is the only non-kohen present.

Ordinarily, the first person called to the Torah is a `kohen' -- a 
descendant of Aharon.  After the kohen, a `levi' is called. The third 
person honored to go up to read the Torah is a `yisrael' -- someone who is 
neither a kohen nor a levi.

But if everyone in the synagogue is a kohen, with the exception of one non-
kohen, the non-kohen is called first.

Since the Torah's "paths are pleasantness, and all it's ways are peace," 
it's fitting to have a systematic way to decide who will be honored first.  
This will preempt any ill-will or argument which might otherwise arise. 
(Shulchan Aruch, O.C. 135:12)

Speaking of arguing in synagogue:  A young scholar from New York was 
invited to become Rabbi in a small old community in Chicago.  On his very 
first Shabbat, a hot debate erupted as to whether one should or should not 
stand during the reading of the Ten Commandments.

Next day, the rabbi visited 98 year-old Mr. Katz in the nursing home.  "Mr. 
Katz, I'm asking you as the oldest member of the community," said the 
rabbi, "what is our synagogue's custom during the reading of the Ten 
Commandments?"

"Why do you ask?" asked Mr. Katz.

"Yesterday we read the Ten Commandments.  Some people stood, some people 
sat.  The ones standing started screaming at the ones sitting, telling them 
to stand up.  The ones sitting started screaming at the ones standing, 
telling them to sit down... "

"That," said the old man "is our custom."
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