Ask The Rabbi 
9 January 1999
Issue #221
Parshat Shmos
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This Issue Contains: 
1. I Am What I Am		5. More Than Skin Deep
2. Memory Candle		6. Yiddle Riddle
3. Cover-Up			7. Public Domain
4. David's Mother 
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____I Am What I Am____

Joseph Slotkowski  <22slotkowski@cua.edu> wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

Why does G-d call Himself, "I am who I am?"  I know that's a horribly 
complex question, but I am a horribly complex person.

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Dear Joseph Slotkowski,

	Rashi explains this name to mean "I am and I will be -- I am their 
rescue now and will be in the future."  Others explain this name to mean 
that G-d's true existence can't be comprehended by human logic.  G-d is 
above time, as He created time.  Therefore, He always was, He is now, and 
He always will be in the future, and all this He is in the present.  The 
word "ehyeh" (I will be), spelled alef, heh, yud and heh, hints at this 
idea, as all the numbers mount towards 10:  The numerical value of alef is 
one, symbolizing the past, heh is five, symbolizing the middle or present, 
yud is 10, symbolizing the end or the future, and the last heh five comes 
to say that all this is in the present.

Sources:

* Exodus 3:14
* Rashi Ibid.


____Memory Candle____

Kim Hornbeck from Belpre, Ohio <hornbecks@speednet1.net> wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

This is the first time I'm lighting a yahrtzeit (anniversary of passing) 
candle for my late father, and I don't know what prayer to say.  Thank you 
for your help.

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Dear Kim Hornbeck,

	There is no specific prayer to recite on lighting the yahrzeit 
candle.  I think that it is fitting to stop for a few moments to remember 
the deceased and to spend some time in introspection.  The yahrzeit candle 
is lit at sundown on the eve of the anniversary of the passing and the 
candle should remain alight for twenty-four hours.  It is a beautiful 
custom to light a candle on the yahrzeit, as the flame of a candle is 
compared to a soul. Just as a flame is never still, so too does the soul 
continuously strive to "reach up" to G-d.


____Cover-Up____

Gabor Borbely from Las Vegas, Nevada <borbeli@lj.net> wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

Can you please tell me shortly about the minhag (custom) of covering our 
heads.  I mean rulings, sources, etc?

Tamar Tessler from Johannesburg SA <tamtov@hotmail.com> wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

Where in any sefer (book) are there halachot (laws) about kippot/yarmulkes?  
How do we know which size is considered kosher?  Material?  Are there any 
halachot regarding the positioning of the yarmulke on the head?  I know 
this could be a touchy question (political correctness!)  Thank you for 
answering.

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Dear Gabor Borbely and Tamar Tessler,

	The Talmud says "cover [the child's] head so that he will have the 
fear of heaven."  The Talmud also associates a covered head with humility.

	In "Guide for the Perplexed," Maimonides states that the early Sages 
were repelled by a bare head.  The custom to wear a head covering is 
legislated in Shulchan Aruch.

	The color and material depend on custom.  Some prefer multi-colored 
versions, some prefer black.  The Chatam Sofer in his responsa says kippot 
may be crocheted or woven even if hair sticks through.  Regarding size, 
there are differing views.  Rabbi Ovadiah Yosef, shlita, requires that the 
kippa be big enough to be seen from all sides, but other authorities, 
including Rabbi Moshe Feinstien, zatzal, disagree and say that there is no 
size specification.  I am not familiar with any source regarding where 
exactly to position the kippa.

	Which reminds me of a story:  Once on a very windy day, a rabbi was 
walking along, when a strong gust of wind blew his hat off his head.  The 
rabbi ran after his hat, but the wind was too strong and it kept blowing 
his hat further and further away.  A non-Jewish young man, seeing what had 
happened ran after the hat, caught it and gave it back to the rabbi.  The 
rabbi was so grateful that he gave the young man twenty dollars and blessed 
him.

	The young man was so excited that he decided to go the race track and 
with the rabbi's blessing fresh in his mind decided to check the program 
and place the entire twenty dollars on a horse.  After the races he went 
home and recounted his very exciting day to his father.  "I arrived at the 
fifth race and looked at the program.  I saw this horse named `Top Hat' was 
running.  The odds on this horse were 100 to 1 but since I received the 
rabbi's blessing I bet the entire twenty dollars on `Top Hat' and guess 
what?  He won!  In the next race, there was a horse named `Stetson' at 30 
to 1 so I bet the entire amount of my winnings on him, and guess what ... I 
won again!"

	"So did you bring the money home?" asked his father.

	"No," said the son, "I lost it all on the next race.  There was a 
horse named `Chateau' that was a heavy favorite so I bet everything on him, 
and since that meant `hat' in French I figured he was a sure thing."

	"You fool!" said the father.  "Hat in French is `chapeau' not 
`chateau!'  But who won the race?"

	"A real long shot," said the son.  "A Japanese horse named Yamaka..."

Sources:

* Tractate Shabbat 196b
* Tractate Kiddushin 31a
* Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 2:6


____David's Mother____

Marilyn Rubin from Scottsdale, AZ & Jerusalem <l_rubin@netvision.net.il> 
wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

I would like to know the name of King David's mother.  Where is this 
written in the Torah?  I believe that his father's name was Jesse (Yishai).

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Dear Marilyn Rubin,

	David's mother's was Nitzevet daughter of Adael.  This is not written 
in the Torah, but rather is recorded in the Talmud, Tractate Bava Batra 
91a.  The Talmud there also gives the name of Avraham's mother, and of 
Haman's mother!


____More Than Skin Deep____

Email@Withheld from South Africa wrote:

Dear Rabbi,

There is a saying that we must not "judge a book by its cover," meaning 
that we must look beyond the physical appearance.  This is shown to us by 
the mitzvah of "dan lechaf zechus" (judging favorably) and in Ohr 
Somayach's regular feature "The Other Side of the Story."  However, I 
believe that this is not entirely true because otherwise what is the 
purpose of the physical world?  I believe we must consider our outside 
performance.  If we must not judge a book by its cover then G-d could have 
made us all angels.  Many times in the Torah the beauty is mentioned.  For 
example a person could say "I am not going to keep the laws of tznius 
(modesty in dress and deportment) because people must look beyond the 
outside."  I do not mean to say that our inside is not important but what 
is the importance of the physical appearance and where do we draw the line?

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Dear Email@Withheld,

	Proverbs (31:30) states "False is grace and vain is beauty, a G-d 
fearing woman, she should be praised."  The Gaon of Vilna explains this 
verse as saying that beauty is vain only when it is not accompanied by fear 
of G-d.  But if beauty is accompanied by fear of G-d, then it is indeed 
something to be valued and praised.

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Yiddle Riddle

Which verse in the Torah has all the letters of the Aleph-Beis?  Answer 
next week...

* Submitted by Yair Guttman <YDgutt@aol.com>

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The Public Domain
Comments, quibbles, and reactions 
concerning previous "Ask-the-Rabbi" features

Re:  Red Thread (Ask #193):

	Regarding the Ask the Rabbi in which a subscriber asked about the 
source of wearing red thread to ward off the evil eye:  Your answer was 
somewhat complicated and involved a red worm, and that by looking at the 
string one is reminded that he is as lowly as a red worm.  I think the 
following is a much simpler and more satisfactory answer:  There is a verse 
in the last chapter of the Book of Proverbs, which is King Solomon's famous 
tribute to womanhood:  "Lo tirah l'vaitah mishaleg" -- Why is the woman of 
valor not afraid that the snowstorm will harm her family?  "Ki chol baitah 
lavush shanim" -- Because her entire household is clad in red!

* Arthur Elfenbein, Woodmere, NY

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Re:  Reunion:

	I merely wish to express my utmost gratitude to you for the part you 
played in a long awaited reunion on my part.  In a recent "Ask the Rabbi" I 
noticed a name and email that seemed like it might be that of a friend from 
Israel whom I had not had contact with in two years.  I've been trying to 
find this person, but even enlisting the help of my brother and friends in 
Yerushalayim proved fruitless.  When I saw the email in your issue, I was 
skeptical, as my friend had not really been a computer person.  I took the 
leap and sent a short note, and sure enough he and his wife had gotten a 
computer recently and had been subscribing to Ohr Somayach's internet 
lists.  This was an amazing and pleasant surprise to both of us and with 
the help of Hashem we will now be able to renew our friendship.

* Dovid Gelerinter, Chicago, IL <dgelerin@mcs.kent.edu>

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Re:  Chanuka Wishes (Chanuka Special):

	I found the Chanuka edition most enlightening!  I was quite surprised 
to see the greeting "Chag Urim Somayach -- Happy Festival of Lights" as 
Chanuka is a moed and not a chag, being that melacha (work) is permitted 
(see Sefer Chanuka: Halachot 1:5, Rabbi Tzvi Cohen).

	Regarding "Simcha's Torah Stories" -- what a wonderful message of 
mesirus nefesh (self sacrifice) for adults as well!

* Avraham Zuroff, Kiryat Sefer, Israel

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Re:  Very Phunny! (Oil Well That Ends Well):

	Loved Rabbi Orlofsky's Chanuka article.  I am on the floor as I type!  
Don't eat too many latkes.

* Bob Davidson, San Diego <bobwar@san.rr.com>


	Rabbi Orlofsky's Chanukah message left me with a smile on my lips and 
in my heart!  Keep up the great work you are doing!

* Judith Amrani, Houston, Texas<AMRJU@gardere.com>


	I forwarded your special Chanuka article by Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky to a 
friend.  The following is her response:

Hi Reuven,

	I was just thinking of you, and lo and behold, a missive from you 
this morning.  All I can say is:  Kol Hakavod!!  It comes at a time when I 
am seeing so many of my friends' children and my children's friends 
intermarrying; three in the coming months.  I know it might seem foolish, 
but each time I feel as if it is a personal loss and it really hurts.  They 
seem to know all of the "thou shalt nots" of Judaism, but none of the 
beauty and truth.  Anyway, this is not a new story and you are as aware of 
it as we are.  I just wanted to let you know that I am going to forward 
that Ohr Somayach article to all those on my e-mail list.  Maybe the 
message will get through to at least one person.  B. and I send you and 
your family our warmest wishes for the holiday.  May the lights of the 
Chanuka candles bring joy to all, happiness and pride in who and what we 
are.  Best Always, M.E.

* Reuven <millerr@mail.biu.ac.il>

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